Crisis Management- House and Parents
As much as adults may try to avoid difficult topics, children often learn or know when something sad or scary happens. If Parents don’t talk to them about it, a child may overestimate what is wrong or misunderstand adults’ silence. So, be the first to bring up the difficult topic. When parents tackle difficult conversations, they let their children know that they are available and supportive.
Perhaps you have lost
your job, you are getting a divorce or medical bills have wiped out your
savings. Your children need to understand how the financial implications will
affect them, whether it will bring a big change such as moving to a new home or
whether it merely requires a reworking of the budget that cuts spending on
food, clothing, toys and activities.
Whatever the nature of
financial problem, a positive approach will help ward off anxiety in children.
In fact, a crisis is often a good time to teach the children about budgeting
frugality and financial discipline.
For instance, if you
have suffered huge losses in your business or one of the spouses needs to quit
working, resulting in a tighter cash flow, calmly explain the situation to the
kids. Then invite suggestions on how they can contribute to the ongoing crisis
or help curb the spending. If you simply vent your frustration about a
situation to which a child can offer no solution, you are only passing on your
stress to the kid.
It is never a good idea
to hide financial problems from children. By the age of 12, most kids are aware
of the family’s financial standing and are often smart enough to sniff out any
money-related stress. So if you are facing a crisis that is likely to be temporary,
say, a job loss, inform the kids without alarming them and ensuring that it
will be resolved as soon as you find new employment.
However even when your family isn’t experiencing money problems, talking
with your children about money is vital for their understanding of key concepts
such as savings and credit, and developing their confidence in making
money-related decisions.
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